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11 - How To Go On Your First
Date & What To Do
Here are some
guidelines:
First of all, keep it
very casual. Most guys use the day two to try to really impress a woman. They
take her to a fancy, expensive restaurant. They pick her up in the car. They
take her all these places and a lot of money. And that just puts a lot of pressure
on her and on him, and it's not just
natural.
You never need to
impress a woman.
What you need to do
is like and accept yourself; then you won’t care if anyone likes you or not
because you are already self validated.
When you accept
yourself, other people have no choice but to accept you.
So, keep your
date/hangout very casual. And if possible involve little or no money in the
date. If it's summer or you live in a warm climate then take her to the beach,
take her for a walk, take her to a park. My best dates are when I do that. If
you have a car, take her in the car and go drive to some nice place, nice spot
and then have a little picnic or something.
Women aren't looking
for anything fancy. And most women get taken out to a restaurant or the movies
on the first date, and they're sick of it. Be original. The movies is the worst
place you can ever take the girl on a day two, because it takes away the
opportunity for you two to connect, and talk, and form some kind of strong
bond.
Although the movies
can work sometimes, it is much better if you plan a hangout where you and her
are going to be engaged in a social activity together, things like mini golf,
bowling, walking in the park, walking on the beach, going shopping together,
having her join you to go shop for some things that you need for your hobby.
Just try it to make it as casual and as cool as possible.
If you can't think of
anything then meeting at a coffee shop is also good, because it doesn't cost a
lot of money and you kind of have a time limit on your date. So it's not too
long. If things go well you can take the date somewhere else, maybe to the
movies, or shopping, or just walking around the city. Or you can just go home.
Another important
thing you need to do on your date is always lead. Do not ask the woman,
"So what do you want to do now? Where do you want to go next?" Women
hate making decisions, especially in a situation when they're with a man they
like. Be the man. Take the lead. Make the decisions.
Women don't care if
you make bad decisions as long as you make some decision. If you put the
pressure on the woman to decide where you're going to go and how long you're
going to stay etc. she's going to lose attraction for you. She does not want to
think. She wants to be present in the moment and swept away. It's your job to
lead, so be the man and lead all the way.
The important thing
to remember is your day two should be
something that fits your everyday lifestyle. If you never go to a fancy
restaurant then don't invite her to a fancy restaurant because you are
misrepresenting yourself. If she is taken on a
fancy restaurant on the first date she is going to expect that
you're going to keep
taking her to fancy places.
Remember to flirt,
and touch, and just be light‑hearted and playful,
and have a good time, because that's all women are looking for. They just want
to have a good time.
Exercise: If you have a girl
you're going to take out, or if you don't have a girl then pretend you have one
you're going to take out, and sit down and plan a date right now. See what you
would plan, where you would meet. Are you going to pick her up, or are you
going to ask her meet you somewhere? Where are you going to go? If you have fun
there, where are you going to go next after that? See if you can plan something
that is very low cost or free
and that is fun and low pressure, and allows you to be
playful in your element, show your personality, connect with her, and just have
a good time. If you can bring your girl into your reality and show her your
world, that will do wonders for you.
For example; if you're part of a band, then bring her
to a practice and let her see you jamming with your friends. If you do videography, then show her your equipment,
and maybe show her some work that you've done.
Whenever you can show a woman a part of your life she
feels more safe and secure, and connected to you because she feels like she
knows you better. So use the day two to really showcase who you are, what you
are about, what your likes are, and don't try to be too accommodating, and
think about how to make a perfect day two for her. She wants to get to know
you, so give her
the real you upfront.
12 ‑ How To Know When She’s Ready To Be Kissed
So, now you are either still on your day
two or you're on your day three or day four and you would like to kiss her.
There are no rules set in stone saying when you should kiss a girl, but if a
girl likes you then you should probably have kissed her between the first and
fourth time you have hung out together.
It is very important to point out that not
all women are the same. Some women think sex is no big deal and will kiss you
very easily. Other women need more time and connection before they're able to open
up physically to you. So be aware of this. Just because a girl isn't ready to
kiss you it doesn't necessarily mean that she's not crazy about you. Just give
her a bit more time. If a girl keeps hanging out with you then she obviously
likes you, so it's just a matter of waiting for the right moment to do it.
OK. So now we are going to talk about how
to get your first kiss with the girl that you are hanging out with. Touch is
very important. Again, a lot of guys make this mistake. They like a girl so much,
they treat her really nicely and they're really careful about how they act with
her and they don't touch her in any way. This is a huge mistake. If you never touch a girl then the
leap between talking to her and kissing her is going to be massive and jumping
from just hanging out and talking to her and kissing her is going to be too
weird and awkward.
So how do you do it? What is the proper
way? The proper way is to initiate touch from the very beginning of the
relationship. She needs to be used to your body close to hers so make sure
during your day two and onwards there is a lot of touching going on. Put your
arm around her, walk around with your arm around her, poke her, playfully pinch
her, tickle her, hold her hand, stroke her hair, and touch her arm when you are
talking to her.
Touch all of these non‑private areas of her body as often as
possible to get her used to you touching her. This also lets her know that
you're a sexual being and you're not afraid of being sexual. If you've been
holding hands or arm and arm all day
then it's very easy for you to turn your head and kiss her, but if you've been
separate all day and just talking then the leap between just talking and then
leaning in to kiss her will be very awkward and risky.
So the secret of kissing a woman is to do
a lot of touching first. Get her used to your touch.
How to know when she's ready to be kissed?
When you see that the woman you're with is very comfortable with your arms
around her, holding your hand, she doesn't pull away at any time, she stays
close to you, when you're sitting side by side your legs are touching, your
bodies are touching.Once you're at this stage she's pretty well ready to be
kissed. If you notice that she does not move away when you touch her then you
can be pretty damn sure that she's ready for you to kiss her.
So the way to kiss her is to look into her
eyes and just be talking to her or maybe be silent. Brush her hair aside and
see if she flinches or not. If she doesn't flinch then lean in and give her a
kiss. Most of the times she will accept your kiss and be happy that you're
kissing her.
In some rare instances you will find out
that she's a very shy girl and she might giggle and turn away at the last
minute. If she giggles and turns away and isn't offended then it's no problem.
She just needs a bit more time. You can try again in five minutes, ten minutes,
half an hour, or maybe the next time you see her. It's no big deal. Just take
it as a joke, take it playfully, and don't be pushy in any kind of way. When
she's ready she will do it. And if
she’s not interested, then move on to
another girl.
The first kiss tells the girl a lot about
the chemistry between you two, so it's very important that you give her a good
experience. The first times you kiss a woman do not stick your tongue down her
throat. Keep the kiss very light.
Use mostly your lips and just lick her
lips a bit, maybe have some tongue to tongue, but keep it very light. Also, be
the first one to end the kiss. This shows her that she can be safe around you,
that you can control yourself sexually, and that she can be safe to open up to
you sexually. It also leaves her longing for more.
After the first kiss I like to just continue on with
casual conversation and most times the girl will look at you with a look in her
eyes that's saying 'oh my God! I can't believe you just kissed me and now
you're just casually talking to me again and you stopped the kiss so quickly'.
This creates anticipation. Remember, girls love a challenge. Girls love to be
teased. You can go in and kiss her a minute later or two minutes later and the
second kiss
can be a lot more intimate and intense than the first.
The first kiss communicates that you are safe, that
everything is OK, and that you are not desperate. The first kiss is where you
give your first impression to her about how you are sexually. When she feels
that it is light and non‑obtrusive then she
will appreciate you and really fall for you.
So remember! Always lead up to a kiss with a lot of
touching. If you do not touch the woman you are dating then it will be very,
very hard and awkward to find a moment in which to kiss her. Find ways in which
you can be close together physically and have a lot of touch between you so
that when it comes time to kiss it will be a natural, effortless, and fun
transition that both of you will enjoy.
Conclusion
Now that you have gone through these simple 12 steps,
it’s time to go out there and practice! Just remember some of the most
important points. Stay positive, playful, and lighthearted. Be fully present
with women you're talking to. Show your confidence through being completely
honest and transparent about who you really are, and how you really feel.
Compliment women to make them feel good about
themselves, and make them open up to you emotionally. Compliment women to keep
you out of the friend zone. Ask women out so you stay out of the friend zone.
When you're flirting with her, stay playful, friendly,
and lighthearted. And remember, this is a game to be enjoyed.
When you follow the 12 steps that i give you, you will
find that
getting a girlfriend is a lot easier than you thought.
Thank you very much for reading this post. I wish you
all the best in your future endeavors.
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Unknown - Sunday, January 5, 2014
thank you that was very helpful
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